At what age for a man is it no longer appropriate to call a girl “cute” and it just becomes creepy?

Let’s say I’m a 45 year old man, 6’1”, average weight, better than average looking, clean cut upscale business man type…I’m not… but let’s say I am.  If I call my neighbor’s daughter from down the street “cute” as a newborn it’s OK, if I call her “cute” at age 3, it’s OK, if I call her “cute” at age 8 it’s ok, but if I call her “cute” at age 13 does it start to become creepy?  At age 15?  At age 17?  What if I don’t know the girl at all?  At what age does it start to become creepy and inappropriate and why?  Would it be ok because I’m a clean cut, good looking guy? Does it depend on the tone of my voice?  What if it’s 100% completely genuine and complimentary and not in a creepy tone what so ever?  What if I was a 45 year old, balding, fat, scruffy looking kind of guy…which once again I’m not, but what if I was and said it in a very genuine tone in front of her parents.  Does it depend on the relationship with the parents? Would it be creepy then?  Does it depend on what the person looks like?  If I’m the same clean cut good looking, 45 year old guy does it become ok to call any girl “cute” at age of 25 or is that still creepy.  What ages is it no longer creepy to call a girl cute?  What if I was a 45 year old woman calling a 18 year old guy cute, is that creepy or am I now just a “cougar” which, by today’s standards is ok…well with some people it’s ok.  I’m just curious, because the business I’m in I see cute girls all of the time, but far be it from me to complement them and call them cute for fear of being pegged as a pervert.  Now I know people will say, well it depends on the person, well what if you don’t know me from a hole in the wall.  Anyway, all I’m saying is that I find it interesting that for a girl between the ages of say 14 to 25 it comes across as creepy or inappropriate if a guy in his 30’s on up calls a girl “cute”.  I mean as long as the dude isn’t saying it in a Night Time Sneaky Uncle perverted creepy sort of voice it shouldn’t be such a bad thing for a guy to call a girl cute.  I guess all the dirt balls out there that scream cat calls and other inappropriate things at girls pretty much fucked it up for the nice guys trying to pay a girl a complement.

Do I still have to open the car door if we’re just friends?

So if it’s pretty obvious that a girl and a guy are just going to be friends or “buddies” or a guy flat out gets the kiss of death from a girl, is it still necessary to open the car door for her?  Let me first define what the “kiss of death” would be for a guy or obvious tell tale signs that she’s not interested in you in any romantic type of way.  The kiss of death to a guy would be hearing any one of these lines from her, “I just want to be friends” or “You’re like a brother to me" or “I just don’t see you that way” or any other statement along those lines.  The obvious signs would be things like when she call’s you “dude” all the time in a text message or when having a one on one conversation.  When she talks to you about bodily functions that you’d only discuss with your boys.  She might prefer to hang out in large groups of friends, instead of just you or worse, points out other dude’s she thinks are hot and you don’t look like any of them, and my personal favorite, when you do get the chance to hang out with her one on one and at the end of the day, afternoon, night whatever it may be you go to give her a hug good bye and she makes sure to turn her head…not towards you but away from you as to make sure you don’t get the wrong idea and try and sneak a kiss.  The last one is especially fun when you honestly had no intention of trying to kiss her in the first place and she does that.

 Now, having said all of that let me say that I do always try and open the car door regardless. I say try because sometimes the girl will open the car door before I can get to it since my car alarm unlocks the door when I disarm the alarm. However this is a thought that has crossed my mind before.  So if we’re just buddies than why can’t I treat you like the rest of my buddies?  When I hang out with my guy friends, I don’t open the car door for them.  As a matter of fact they’d probably ask “what the fuck are you doing you weirdo.” I still do things for my friends like hold the door open when going in and out of a building, picking up the tab for a meal, or giving them a call just to shoot the shit.  Normal things friends do for each other.

So we’ve now established that we are just “friends”, so is it OK to treat her like the rest of my friends and not open the car door for her?  Look, I get it that there’s such a thing as chivalry and being a gentleman and most women would say that it’s dead. This isn’t a blog about whether chivalry is dead or not, I think there’s more to chivalry than just opening a car door for a female friend.  Yes, there are definitely douche bags out there that are just self centered assholes and if this is what women mean by chivalry is dead, I would 100% agree with them but there are plenty of good guys out there that still believe in it whether women realize it or not. So I’m curious, am I no longer considered a gentleman or a good guy if I no longer open the car door for a female if we have now established that we are just friends?  The boundaries between being a gentleman and a friend are a little hazy to me.  In any case, let me give you guys a tip, always error on the side of being a gentleman, just because your newly established friendship has no potential of going any further than that…she still might have some hot girl friends!
-Blue Collar Drifter

Sports are one of the greatest social common denominators...

I believe it was Art Modell who once said in a documentary about the history of the NFL that “football is one of the greatest social common denominators amongst people”, I’d take that a step further and say sports are one of the greatest social common denominators amongst people.  If you don’t believe Art or myself, the next time you are at a restaurant or bar where a T.V. has sports on look around and you’ll notice men, women, teen agers and even young kids of all different backgrounds, of all different races, of all different religions cheering for a team.  Now they may not be cheering for the same particular team but none the less they are cheering for one team or another.  Some of them may know each other and others may not, but that doesn’t seem to matter.  As long as the stranger next to you is cheering for the same team you are for those 3 hours you’ve made an instant friend.  It’s interesting that in everyday life you may pass this person on the street and never bother to even say “hi” but in a sports setting you’d probably high-five this same person.   You have to admit it’s a pretty awesome thing that sports can bring all sorts of walks of life together.  If you want an example on an even grander scheme, take a look at the summer or winter Olympics, you have a whole nation cheering for the USA to beat whom ever.  I know there are people out there that think sports are pointless and stupid but to the average sports fan that doesn’t get stupid drunk and make an ass out of themselves by being a loud obnoxious jackass, it can be a pretty strong bonding experience, and I don’t mean just with “your boys”.  I can guarantee you 100% that there are some fathers and sons, father and daughters, mothers and sons, grandparents and grandkids, so on and so forth that may have a hard time talking or relating to one another except for when their favorite sports team is playing.  Sometimes all it takes is a simple common interest like watching sports to open the door to other conversation.  I've played a lot of sports in the past and even nowadays I'll join a pickup game here or there.  I've been able to take a lot of what I've learned from sports and have applied it to my life, just about every single day in one way or another.  I not trying to get all emotional and sappy about it because, let’s get real, most of the time we’re screaming words that would make a sailor blush at the T.V. as if the players can actually hear us.  The next time you’re out at a sporting event or a restaurant or sports bar look around, you’d be amazed at how many people are getting along with each other.  Can you imagine if we acted like this in everyday life?

-Blue Collar Drifter

I Hate it When People Say “He talks like a black person”...

     What the fuck does that even mean?  I actually understand what they mean but hey, way to throw a blanket statement on an entire race!  Heads up…not EVERY black person talks like that.  What else am I supposed to call it you ask…how about “street talk” or “ghetto”…but really “like a black person”, that’s just an ignorant statement.  Yes, there are SOME black people that talk ghetto but guess what I’ve ran across just as many White people, Asian people, Hispanic people and even East Indian people that talk "ghetto"…so black people aren’t the only ones that talk this way.  Believe me this isn’t just a one sided argument, I think it’s stupid when somebody says “he sounds like a white person.”  This is just as much of an idiotic statement as the other one.  Pull your head out of your ass people.  Am I trying to be politically correct…FUCK NO, I’m just calling it like I see it.  I once read a quote that went something like this, “The color of your skin doesn’t determine what comes out of your mouth”, I couldn’t agree more.  Just because a black male or female who speaks proper English and doesn’t drop an F bomb every 3^rd word, they sound like a white person and vice versa, if you’re a white male or female and you use the word “dis” instead of “this” or “ax” instead of “ask” and other ghetto slang and curse words you talk like a black person.  Do you realize how ridiculous that sounds?  I’ll bet you all one hundred dollars of my next pay check that if I blind fold you and bring in a total of 12 men and women, 6 that talk ghetto, and 6 that speak proper English that you would not be able to tell which ones are black and which ones are white.  As a matter of fact if you even get half of them correct I’ll give you the pay check AND let you kick me in the balls just to shut me the hell up!!!

      If you were raised with a good education and a great home life no matter what color your skin is, talking like you’re from the ghetto ain’t going to get you street cred, you just look like a fake, wannabe, and really, who wants to be poor, broke and living on the streets?   If you really want to live that life and gain some real street cred, then leave mommy and daddy’s home and all the clothes they bought you, the car they let you drive, the bed they let you sleep in and the food they provide for you, and go to the nearest homeless shelter and grab yourself some cardboard and live it up.  As a matter of fact offer to trade places with the 1^st person you run into at the homeless shelter or living on the streets, I’m about 100% sure they’d be OK with switching places with you.  Hey, look at you now, you’re broke, you’re homeless, you’re starving and you don’t know where you’re going to sleep tonight…but at least now have some street cred!  Go on wich yo badself!!

-Blue Collar Drifter

Are Accents Sexy...

Why are some accents considered “sexy”.  Women seem to love an Australian accent or a British accent or a Scottish accent.  I’ve heard guy’s with these accents call their accents, “panty dropping accents”.  Women seem to always say, “God, I just love his accent, it’s so sexy!”  So what is it about these accents that are so sexy?  Is it the way the person looks that has the accent?  Is a short, fat, balding guy with an accent sexy or just amusing?  So if a Australian accent, British accent and Scottish accent are sexy just to name a few what about oh I don’t know, let’s say……….a Chinese accent or a Japanese accent, what about an accent from Jersey or Nebraska or Russia.  Are they sexy or just annoying?   I find it funny that some accents are considered sexy and others are just annoying?  I’m willing to bet you will never find a woman who finds an Asian accent “sexy”.  I guess an Asian accent is really more broken English than it is an accent.  Still, I’ve met guys from Spain or Greece that have broken English and women still seem to find it cute.  Apparently the Asian guys are just shit out of luck.  Jersey accents aren’t much better, at least they’re not speaking broken English, however whatever the fuck they are saying can sometimes barely qualify as English.  I’ve watched shows on the BBC network before, could you imagine a whole network filled with shows that spoke nothing but broken English accents?  I believe stabbing myself in the eyes with sharpened pencils would be much less painful than having to listen to and watch that.  I do however think it would be interesting  to meet an Asian dude that has a British, Scottish or Australian accent and see if he pulls more ass than a toilet seat!

-Blue Collar Drifter

There is no such thing as Reverse Racism…

  The term reverse racism is one of the stupidest terms I’ve ever heard of.  Correct me if I’m wrong but racism is racism isn’t it?  I suppose  if  what somebody means when they say “reverse racism” is that they are totally in favor of a specific race then yes, reverse racism would be the correct term, however that’s not what anybody ever means when they are using that term.  Wanda Sykes has a great bit about reverse racism where she says “Reverse racism? That's ridiculous. Isn’t that when a racist is being nice to somebody else.  What they are really afraid of is called KARMA."  I agree with her 100%.  Any way you cut it racism is racism.  Don’t try to pull this reverse racism crap because it just makes you look stupid.  Don’t try and make yourself the victim when you yourself have probably at one time or another had racist tendencies.  We’ve all done it and may not even realize it.  Using the term reverse racism is very similar to a double negative sentence such as “I don’t need none.” So what you really mean is that you do need some.  If we're going to accept reverse racism as a term that is acceptable why not call something that's beautiful, reverse ugly or something that's skinny, reverse fat?  I’ll tell you why, because people will want to correct you and say…so you mean that it’s beautiful or…so you mean that it’s skinny?  So why not correct somebody when they say “reverse racism” and tell them…"so you mean they're being nice to you?"  At the very least question them about it because they’re probably already all fired up about whatever the situation is and this will just piss them off even more.  They won’t think it’s funny but you probably will!
~Happy Friday~
-Blue Collar Drifter

On the off chance....

On the off chance that anybody out there is reading this blog, I've decided that I'm going to try and post every Monday and Friday.  So to the 2 of you out there that I know have read this blog if you want to come back on Monday's and Friday's I'll have a new post or you can follow me by signing up on the right side.  I'm not really sure how the whole "follow" thing works but give it a shot.  By the way this would not count as my Friday post.

Dancing with the..."Stars"...more like Dancing with the "Has Beens"

Wow, they’re really stretching the word “Stars” with this season of cast member's on “Dancing with the Stars”.  Now I’ve only seen a handful of episodes but I thought the concept of “Dancing with the Stars” was that the professionals were supposed to be dancing with…well, “Stars”, NOT people you have heard of.  Somebody explain to me how Bristol Palin is a “star” or how Mike “The Situation, Douche Bag” Sorrentino is a “star”, or Audrina Patridge is a “star”.  Really? Star? How about “people who just really, really want to be famous for having no talent at all”.  Will somebody please start a petition to change the name of the show to “Dancing with the D Listers”.  Some of the others I would classify as “stars”, Florence Henderson – Star, Michael Bolton, unfortunately – Star, Rick Fox -  borderline star, Brandy – borderline star, David Hasselhoff, much like Michael Bolton, unfortunately – Star, Margaret Cho I would not consider her a star, I wouldn’t even consider her a piece of glitter.  I don’t really get the appeal of the show in the first place.  Yes, I think dancing takes talent and athleticism but, really…dancing?  Why do you care?  What is it in your life that you’re missing that this show thrills you?  I don’t know, I just don’t get it.
-Blue Collar Drifter

Just Another Blog...

I know, I know, I know,  everybody and their mother and grandmother have a blog and trust me, they’re probably much better than this one.  Ask me if I give a shit!  I’m not a great writer and have never proclaimed to be one.  I usually have friends proof read my stuff before I post it anywhere but I’ve decided to fly solo on this adventure.  There’s no theme to this blog, there’s not meaning to this blog and if you get any useful information out of this blog it’s purely by accident.  I’m not out to change the world or open people’s minds.  I just need a place to vent and talk about the stupid shit that goes on in this world…or at least what I consider to be stupid shit.  I swear like a sailor, my spelling is terrible, my writing skills on a good day are at a 6^th grade level.  If you can put up with all of that then, well…maybe… just maybe you might find what I have to say entertaining.  If you are all about grammar and being politically correct then I would say go ahead and stop reading now and click on this link (www.ikea.com) and go and pick out your next shelving unit or book case to put your “Look at how intelligent and well rounded of a person I am” books on.  However, if you’re an everyday person that is not a complete whack job then you might (and that’s a big might) find this blog sort of interesting.  I don’t know when or how often I’ll be writing on this thing, mostly just whenever I feel like it.  I’ll be surprised if even 1 person reads this.  I just find it a little therapeutic being able to express my opinion about this world and putting it out there on the bathroom wall we call the Internet for anybody who happens to come across it.
-Blue Collar Drifter